The temptation of pornography

(This is part 2 of a series on fighting against the struggle with pornography. Here is part 1 of this series) Pornography and the temptation of the quick fix Imagine for a second that the temptation of pornography is like a man buying a watch. A man decides that one of their goals in life…

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Diffusing the desire for pornography

Overcoming the struggle against porn One of the most common mistakes I see couples make is when they start to use something like pornography, or even an affair, to stimulate their sexual desire for their spouse.   I have seen, heard or read self-help and fiction Books, movies, pundits and alleged experts all tout this idea….

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Dealing with difficult people

How to not be traumatized by the difficult people in your life It is amazing what we as humans can deal with when we see things in different perspectives. Imagine that you chose to work at a camp for helping Down’s Syndrome kids. Imagine that at some point, a big teenage DS boy walks up to you…

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What forgiveness looks like

Forgiveness part 2 Another great teaching about forgiveness from our Rabbi is found in Matthew 18:21-35. When Peter asks about how often he should forgive someone who sins against him, Jesus tells him the parable of a man who owes, you guessed it, a very large debt. The master “forgave him the debt” (vs. 27),…

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Why forgiving others matters

Part 1 on forgiveness “…And according to the Law, one may almost say, all things are cleansed with blood, and without shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.” (Heb 9:22, NASU)   How could it be that of all religions in the world, we have decided to communicate that forgiveness is easy and/or cheap, or even…

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Creating a rite of passage for men

We live in a society that is clueless about how to guide boys and girls into mature men and women. As men, there is a deep desire within us to be told by a man who knows us well that we are a man. This journey into masculinity is a long process, and its finale…

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Listen to Chris’ parenting and family series

New parenting conference It’s hard to imagine, but those cute little faces are going to grow up into adult men and women. And what kind of man or woman will they be? Will they be loving, strong, ready to face the challenges set before them? What does it really look like to prepare our children…

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Love your wife with limited resources

You may have noticed that we have limits. Though many of you may live as though this isn’t true, there are plenty of unlimited resources for us as humans – love, friendship, forgiveness, joy, trust, etc. I will write more about this later, because it isn’t the main purpose of this article, but it fits…

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A more complete view of masculinity

What does it mean to be a man? I have recently run into another issue that I think is worth mentioning: Conceptions of masculinity… or maybe should say “misconceptions.” Over a century ago, a guy named Carl Jung talked a lot about the psychological and sociological applications of “archetypes”… by which he meant that we…

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Does God give us more than we can bear? – part 2

(Here is the first part of this article) One thing that the phrase “God doesn’t give us more than we can bear” can create is a sense that we should be able to “face this on our own.” As in, not burden other people with our stuff.   Well, this would certainly not be a…

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