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Saying no in a “yes” world

Saying no in a “yes” world

The value of saying no Over the last few years,  one of my great passions  has been the topic of rest. Someday, I will write an article made up of my notes from a year of research on rest… As I have spoken recently on various topics, it keeps coming up!  It doesn’t...
The church and mental illness

The church and mental illness

Here is a story that helps us frame the tension of the church and mental illness: Cape Coast Castle is located on the Gold Coast of West Africa in Ghana. Today it is a busy tourist attraction. Over 250 years ago it was the hub of the slave trade out of Africa. Slaves...
The danger of high expectations

The danger of high expectations

Dealing with high expectations I hear and read about people who talk about the role of expectations… a lot. Marriage counselors talk about how spouses should be clear in their expectations.  Business leaders tell us to communicate our expectations   clearly. ...
Are you becoming emotionally numb?

Are you becoming emotionally numb?

When emotions turn off I wonder how many of the behaviors that we struggle with in our personal lives have roots in emotional numbing?  Eating too much?  Not eating enough? Drinking every night?  Keeping our home perfectly ordered? Looking to sex or porn for...
How to defuse your own high expectations

How to defuse your own high expectations

How do I handle other’s high expectations on me? (This is part 2 of a series on the dangers of expectations in our lives. You can view part 1 here.)   The way expectations can be even worse on a relationship is the way that they greatly limit the giving of...
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